7 responses to “Is There Any Way To Help Your Siamese Cat Be More Loving And Sweet?”

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  purpleki June 23rd, 2009 at 02:07

  Okay – I definately have some advice for you, but first, I feel compelled to come to the defense of the sweeter Siamese out there! Each and every cat out there has his or her own personality, just like people, so please – never let one cat’s personality turn you off to an entire breed! There are many sweet, loving Siamese out there with excellent dispositions. I happen to have one at home. She’s the most people-friendly cat you could ask for – ALWAYS on someone’s lap…she even “rotates” herself between laps if there is more than one person in the room, and she always introduces herself to company by purring and asking for pets!
  So now that I’ve gotten that out of the way….
  Cats have “rules of society” just like people, and when trying to make a cat less tempermental and more comfortable around you, it really halps to follow them.
  Rule number one is – always let kitty smell your hand before you touch her. A cat’s sense of smell is the MAIN sense she uses to recognize others. Think of it like a handshake. Try to do it in a “submissive” way – fingers relaxed, palm up. Let her sniff as long as she wants.
  Next, try to move slowly. Cats do not respond do affection in the same way that people do. People want to jump right in and give kitty a good rubbing and a hug, but this SCARES kitty. She feels trapped and unsafe.
  A good first step may be to just try sitting closely next to kitty. You could sit so your leg is touching her, or you could sit so that you are at a slight distance and then rest your hand against her side.
  When she’s become confortable with you doing either of these for an extended period, move on to placing your hand on her back and just resting it there.
  When she’s okay with letting you do that for a decent amount of time, you can move on to slowly stroking her. If she doesn’t like this….if she growls or she gets up and leaves – that’s fine! Go back to restong your hand on her, and then try again next time you’re together.
  Cats are EXTREMELY patient animals, so you need to be patient, too! This will be an ongoing process.
  Another good way to help gain kitty’s confidence is with food/treats. You can use cat treats, or you can use “people food” like little bite-sized pieces of lunchmeat or chicken (cooked!) or tuna. Rest your hand on kitty’s back, up near her head, and give her a little treat. Teach her to associate your touch with the tasty tidbits. It will show her that you are someone who brings GOOD things to her. Once she’s used to this new experience, you can move on to stronking her while giving her the treats. (But remember – don’t give her TOO many treats – this can cause her to become overweight…..or too much in one sitting can make her throw up!)
  A few more tips:
  - Talk to kitty when you’re spending time with her – in a quet, calm, reasurring voice. She doesn’t know what you’re saying, but she can pick up on your tone just the way you can tell how she’s feeling by the way she’s meowing.
  - Look kitty in the eye and blink at her a few times very slowly, keeping your eyes shut a bit longer than typically (this is something cats do with each other). Closing your eyes shows her that you are letting your guard down – that you aren’t threatened by her and that she shouldn’t be threatened by you.
  - Try to catch kitty laying on her side for “together” time. If she’s lying on her side, she can see what you are doing when you are petting her, and she will always feel safer when she can see everything you’re doing.
  If all else fails – maybe your cat just isn’t a “cuddling” cat. In that case (and you may want to do this anyway!), head out to your local pet store and get some cat interactive (the kind where the person AND the cat get to play) cat toys and see how that goes! One of our three cats, our Abyssinian, isn’t really much for being pet (she runs away like lightning), but we have an absolute ball playing together.
  Sometimes it’s just a matter of a family and a new cat “breaking each other in”. But you’ll figure each other out!

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  My Big Bear Ron June 23rd, 2009 at 04:50

  Every Siamese cat I’ve known has been like that — very independent, strong willed, and a bit assertive. Silly, as it may seem, that’s what I like about them. I grew up with one who could beat up any dog in the neighborhood. I still laugh at the memory of him chasing a Boxer right out of the yard, and the time he turned around face to face to a German Shepherd…the GS backed off.
  My advice. Let the cat be. In time the cat will adopt / embrace the family as family. Call the cat by her name. Give her the space she wants, and get to know her for who she is.

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  Karen June 23rd, 2009 at 04:51

  Anybody that has ever had a Siamese or should I say, the Siamese lets us think that we own him or her, knows that they rule the roost. Plain and simple. I had a chocolate point Siamese and she truly ruled the house!

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  MaRiA!!! June 23rd, 2009 at 11:39

  i have a siamese cat which is very quiet and sweet. it’s how you treat it.it takes the personality of its boss i think

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  celie June 23rd, 2009 at 13:16

  Keep giving her the love and affection you give her now and eventually she will warm up to you. sometimes it takes times because an animal is shy or just plain unfriendly.

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  kevylp June 23rd, 2009 at 13:18

  some vets have some kind of a device that you can plug into a outlet (it works like a kind of a fan) I don’t know what is in it but it has some kind of a calming affect on cats you may want to ask your vet about it

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  tigereye June 23rd, 2009 at 14:01

  No, she is her own cat and knows what she wants and doesn’t want. You must respect her wishes. As you would want her to respect yours if you had enough of her.